Episode 87

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2nd Oct 2024

Why We Lose It, Triggers & Regressive Behavior: Mastering Intimacy Part 1

In this episode, we explore the concept of the adaptive child and how it influences our reactions during relationship conflicts. We discuss the importance of self-confrontation and self-reflection as foundational elements for intimacy.

The conversation delves into the impact of past traumas on present behaviors, the necessity of recognizing when the adaptive child takes over, and strategies for shifting back to the wise adult. Techniques for self-regulation and the role of journaling in personal growth are also highlighted, providing listeners with actionable insights to improve their relationships.

Takeaways:

  • Recognizing the adaptive child is crucial for healthy communication.
  • Self-confrontation is the foundation of intimacy in relationships.
  • Behavior reflects deeper emotional truths and needs.
  • Past traumas can trigger automatic, unhealthy responses in relationships.
  • The adaptive child often takes over during conflicts, leading to regression.
  • Maturity involves managing one's own emotional responses.
  • Self-regulation techniques can help regain control during emotional upheaval.
  • Journaling can enhance self-awareness and promote personal growth.
  • Understanding triggers is essential for effective conflict resolution.
  • Intimacy requires vulnerability and the willingness to evolve.

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