Communicating Needs in Relationships, Part 3 (Asking Without Starting A Fight)
This is Part 3 in a 4 Part Series on Navigating Needs In Relationships
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the importance of expressing needs effectively in relationships. They highlight the role of unexpressed and unspoken needs in causing resentment. The hosts emphasize the need to make clear observations without evaluation or judgment and to honestly and effectively express feelings. They outline the four elements of a compassionate request: clear observations, expressing feelings, articulating specific needs, and making a specific request without sounding like a demand. The hosts acknowledge the challenges of building trust in requests and encourage listeners to be patient and practice this new way of communicating.
Takeaways
- Unexpressed and unspoken needs can lead to resentment in relationships.
- Effective communication involves making clear observations without evaluation or judgment.
- Expressing feelings honestly and effectively is crucial in expressing needs.
- A compassionate request includes clear observations, feelings, specific needs, and a request that does not sound like a demand.
Chapters
00:00 Resentment in Relationships
03:05 Expressing Needs Effectively
04:00 Four Elements of a Compassionate Request
05:25 Making Clear Observations
10:30 Expressing Feelings
13:23 Articulating Specific Needs
15:40 Making a Specific Request
24:54 Building Trust in Requests
26:18 Final Thoughts and Call to Action
