Episode 35

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4th Oct 2023

Three Marriages with The Same Person

“Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person." - Esther Perel

It was just one marriage ceremony between Sharla and Robert but if you knew them as a couple in the last three decades, the distinct differences in who they were together would paint 3 completely different pictures.

Like asking a child, an artist, and a color-blind person to paint the same image. They’d unlikely look even remotely similar.

Change is imminent. It cannot be avoided.

So, what do we do when our relationships are being put to the test? We BURN OUR BOATS.


We evolve as individuals and as couples, and while sometimes that change can be painful, by burning our boats (and bridges), we decide that it’s better not to hold onto what’s familiar.


If you can tolerate the discomfort of growth, together, one day, you’ll realize the incredible meaning and richness that comes to your life for making it through together.


Tune in to hear how Robert and Sharla’s relationship has dramatically shifted from a once self-centered validation machine to a now connected and renewed supportive partnership.



In this Episode:

  • "Burn The Boats" principles
  • Redefining our relationship
  • 1st Marriage: Infatuation and Validation
  • Pattern Interrupt; Being out of sync
  • 2nd Marriage - Complacency
  • 3rd Marriage - Renewal and Reconnection; Our Most True Self

And so much more!



Resources Mentioned:

  • “When your army has crossed the border, you should burn your boats and bridges, in order to make it clear to everybody that you have no hankering after home.” ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War


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Master Your Marriage
Experiencing deeper love, passion and connection in your relationship
The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity.

This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic.

Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship and love, without it ever feeling like "hard work."

No matter how long you've been struggling with your marriage, or how long it's been since you've felt that "spark," we promise you, there is hope!

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